I Don’t Tell Lies
A few days ago, my son asked me if I have ever vomited.
My answer is obviously a Yes.
So then he asked if I had thrown up because I wasn’t feeling too well.
My answer to that was another yes.
Then he asked if getting drunk would lead you to vomit as well.
I just looked at him, bewildered.
My little boy is turning 7 soon. So how do you tell his young mind that, yes, mommy has had a tough time of it and made a few mistakes in the past that he may have to face too? I don’t condone bad deeds and I certainly will not let my own child commit them but when it does happen I will be the understanding mother that I always have and help him mend those errors. My son is a terrible liar like most kids are so I told him he’s too transparent and that he better not lie to his own mother about alcohol drinking.
I didn’t say that out loud though. But I did however used my greatest weapon – diversion.
It made think long and hard about the proper ways to broach the subject of alcoholic and drug abuse with my kid.
My partner and I drink on occasion but we never have too much. Gin and tonic for my husband while it’s red sparkling wine for me. My son is fully aware that mommy and daddy are drinking alcohol. That is why my husband and I are ready when our son decides to fire away a rain of questions about said drinks.
Can I smell it – his usual.
He gets even more receptive and asks if he can have a taste which I say no to.
I warn him that it will make him very sleepy if he did.
I am fully aware that some parents choose to let their adolescent children take a few sips of alcohol or perhaps bring a bottle or two only if they have some at home. As a matter of fact, we had just been invited over last weekend where a girl was celebrating her 16th birthday party as she and her guests downed lot of booze while her parents watched.
But it was a relief that the celebrant’s mother took it upon herself to confiscate everyone’s car keys at the door before one of them drove drunk into the night. We decided to sleep on any soft, comfortable horizontal surface available that night. Did we sleep soundly though? Definitely not. But did it make sure no one hit the road under the influence? Effectively.
It is a fact that some people, while they don’t agree with underage drinking, they prefer their kids drinking in a safer space such as their own homes.